Soc 350 #7 Tell me I'm wrong...10-29-2013

I guess I had a hard time understand Cooper's ideas. I know that I am a stubborn and at times  fierce person. If I do something wrong how could I now if no one blamed me for and told me. If I and other people train me and myself but I pick how to follow and what group to be with. Then I am a form of power. Am I not? As a power should I not be held accountable for my actions. If I am never corrected and told I am a influential person that holds power how can I make sure that I use my power in the right way. I picked the song "Hero" by Superchick for the fact I thought the song played really well into my idea. I know for me being a big sister that it is important for me to be open and now how I affect my younger sister. For example in the song the following lyrics play.
"No one talks to him about how he lives
He thinks that the choices he makes are just his
Doesn't know he's the leader with the way he behaves
And others will follow the choices he's made
He lives on the edge, he's old enough to decide
His brother who wants to be him is just nine
He can do what he wants because it's his right
The choices he makes change a nine-year-old's life"
I think most people can see that they have faults and accept the idea today that they play into how the act and do things. For me though maybe its a fault but I cannot help but feel that I need to hold people accountable to there actions. I am not saying that it should be carried out in the harshest way. I understand that its hard to see and to stop from something people are so use to. But should they not at least be told when possible that what they are doing is wrong. Even at times if it is harsh. I believe at times being harsh is the only way to make some people see things. For a example to elaborate. I love my grandfather that being said he drives me crazy. He believes I should become a dentist that speaks Spanish then I would always have a job. He can at times be judgmental and bias to the ways he grow up. Yet though all that I still love him and forgive him. Yet the one place I cannot seem to let things go is him smoking. He has done it for more then half his life. So I understand its hard and he has tried to stop but he goes back and to me that is giving up and being weak on his part of something I now he can do. I know he wants to stop and he wants to live a longer life to see me reach dreams and goals that he wants to see. So is it be being wrong when I accept that its hard yet still lock him out of his own house for a few minutes because I told him not to go outside and smoke? Even if it was just a joke. Should I accept that he won't ever stop smoking and I should come to terms with that and not blame him. 

 P.S. He did quite and has stopped smoking for almost a year!