soc 350 suicide (sumblog 9-30-13 #3)

 It might be really odd but I like talking about suicide  I feel that if we are open about talking about it then we are more open to help people with it. To think not only yourself but others and everything pushes and pulls people. That with today and our new social ways and the virtual lives and ways you can escape but it also opens you up to more people being able to hurt you. It's an interesting idea as to where to balance things not only in your own life but how you make things balance in other peoples lives.  Think of all the people that lean on you. I once had someone tell me.  "It's not the person that committed suicides that is hurting most. It's  the ones left behind that are hurting the most. The ones that have to think and wonder why and what if's." I guess I agree with this in  a way. If someone I know was to use suicide as a way to get out of the pain they feel in life I would feel so bad  and I would not understand why I didn't help. Why they didn't ask for help. I would have so many questions. Its been an odd idea for me to make a connection from grief to suicide  That maybe the loved ones from  that act would be pushed to commit it themselves. Maybe the only thing that holds them back is they know the pain and loss their loves ones would feel. To me it is interesting that Emile Durkheim's work of how a person is pulled not only as a group but also alone into committing suicide. I think it still holds true today that if anyone gets pushed to much in anyway that they can start to feel this way. Looking at groups that we are with for support and to guide us in our actions is very true. I think we all want to think that we do not look at others for help or ideas of what we should think about a idea. But we do we can't help it we base our ideas of other peoples ideas. If we did not do this we would start all over again and again on every level and not reach to the heights we have today for standards. I am setting a challenge for myself this month. I want to put the time and effort in to read a book called"13 Reasons why." It is by Jay Asher. It's been recommended to my by someone that close to me. I want to take the time to read this book to help me get a understanding of how what I do affects other peoples lives. I want to make my affect be a positive and loving one. The video I posted at the top is one that when I was having a hard time I made a strong connection to. I want to make sure that if I know anyone feeling that why that I can be there to help them even if its just to give the the suicide helpline number.